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How to have an effortless breakthrough by small, regular steps – a little, step-by step guide

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Here is how small changes, repeated over a period of time, can lead to a breakthrough.

Have you ever wanted to make a change but didn’t know where to start? Is there something you have promised yourself to do but didn’t do it because the process seemed daunting? Here are a few simple ways to help you stay on track by making some almost unnoticeable steps in your schedule that will lead you in the right direction.

It all begins with one single step. Whether you shop for groceries or want to enroll on a three-year course, it begins with one step. The sparkle – the decision – then one step. Or, if you want to make a significant change in your habits – let’s say, be on time to your appointments, finally, even one simple step of going out five minutes earlier than usual, would help.

Every bit helps. Same with your savings – instead of buying something now and stretching your budget, if you just refrained from that one thing you eat out normally, just once a week, and instead prepared yourself a sandwich before you went out, with time you might save enough to get this thing without much effort. With time.

It’s all about progress made in time. Small progress. Because if you want something different, even a little change in your habits is better than no change, right? If you don’t take the steps, things will probably not go into the direction you want. And if you do, you may effortlessly find yourself in the right place.

I’ve found a lot of these kinds of advice in a book called One Small Step Can Change Your Life. The Kaizen Way by Robert Maurer, Ph. D. It explains them in an encouraging way:

Kaizen and innovation are the two major strategies people use to create change. Where innovation demands shocking and radical reform, all kaizen asks is that you take small, comfortable steps toward improvement.

The same applies to getting fit, upgrading your skills, meeting new people, becoming less shy, learning a new language, stepping out of your comfort zone, quitting smoking, finding a job… The areas where you can use that approach are endless. You can probably come up with ten more things you would like to change a little bit. One at a time. If you like, please share them with me.

After all, our ordinary days consist of many little things that we do, which in time sum up into a whole of our experiences that is bigger than the sum of its parts. Even Einstein said that his talent was to be curious enough to check various possibilities and not giving up. And if the world is a matter of vibration, and we are too, why not raise it just a tiny bit and step by step become what we would truly love to be?

The sun, with all those planets revolving around it and dependent upon it, can still ripen a bunch of grapes as if it had nothing else in the universe to do.

- Galileo

Small things matter.

 

And to end, this quote:

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.

Gail Sheehy

 

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If you had all the time (and money) in the world, what would you LIKE to do?

Tension is who you think you should be.

Relaxation is who you are.

- Chinese proverb.

I find this to be extremely right. How often are we trapped in the jobs that we don’t like, relationships we don’t enjoy anymore or in doing things that do not bring us any good anymore? Yet we still do these things. Then the tension happens. Whenever you’re struggling too much, it’s a sign something’s not working… Or you are working in the wrong field for example…

So, RELAX.

And imagine this:

If you had all the time (and money) in the world, what would you LIKE to do?

Maybe the answer lays there…

Here are some things that inspired me today:

  •  There are thousands of versions of the Cinderella story in the world. And the oldest one of them (that we know of) comes not from Brothers Grimm, but… from China! – my Wikipedia enlightenment of the day.

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(that’s not the Chinese picture, by the way)

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  • This quote:

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

- Dr. Seuss

  • Some photos on Facebook & Twitter. I do share them sometimes on my page. Also quotes & other stuff…

Have a great weekend! I mean, really nice one, full of fun and some time just for you. JUST. FOR. YOU.

Enjoy :)

Let me know in the comments about your feelings :)

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DREAM !!!

When was the last time when you had this gut feeling, that urge, that was driving you to do something that you wanted to do for a long time? Have you listened to it? There is a silent (well, sometimes loud!) voice in our mind that speaks to us and if only we dare to listen, we could do AWESOME THINGS and use our talents and potential and achieve extraordinary ambitions. If only we dare to listen – I repeat! Well… that’s not always the case. I know, we have work, commitments, distractions, other halves, stuff to do, or we’re simply tired and not bothering… But without doing what we actually dream of, we risk losing something very important in ourselves, that’s a part of who we are, really – not who we appear to be to the world through our roles (employee, mother, etc.), but who we really are inside and what we want to achieve. Therefore, it is CRUCIAL, really crucial to follow our dreams. Our internal path. Wherever they lead us to. It will always be somewhere special. Because, as someone said:

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you will find yourself among the stars.

And that’s the place to be, isn’t it? This path will always be interesting.

If you’re still not sure where to start, here are some options to get you on the right track:

Stay tuned, there will be more posts about your dreams here! One by one. :) To prepare you for your journey. Not everything at once ;) A daily dose of inspiration. If you want several daily doses of inspiration, join me on Twitter or Facebook – links on the right or below. Keep dreaming. That’s what everyone says. Let me show you one video.

This is from 10 years ago, back from when Jessie J was not famous, she was 15 years old. When asked what her goal was, she said: ‘a number one single’. Well, it must have sounded quite confident and unrealistic from a 15-year old girl at that time. But then… look at what she is now. She’s over-achieved her dream many times. Impossible? Don’t let anybody tell you what you dream of is impossible. How can they know?

If you still don’t know where to start, watch the animated movie “Up” from Pixar – such a sincere tale about life, that people of any ages could enjoy it. See the characters’ dream and… don’t wait too long. Life is too short for that. Just do what you’re meant to do. Start NOW. You don’t have to finish reading, or even watch the video. I mean it. Start NOW. Feel what you want to do. And make the first step in that direction. You will be happier.

Have fun while realising your dream!

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Are you left-brained or right-brained? Find out in 1 minute ;)

Here is a test where you can find out which side of your brain you use most. Really interesting stuff! And very quick. Just a guideline, but fun. This test is quite useful! I’ve done it :) Good to know which side of you dominates ;)

Click here to do the test.

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5 Tangible Benefits of Mindfulness in Every Day Life (even 10 seconds a day)

Hello and welcome to my brand new, fresh, aromatic, blog, just off the press (WordPress, that is). But first of all… close your eyes for 10 seconds and take three breaths. Not very deep ones, just normal ones. So that you know you are breathing and nothing else is more important in that moment. Okay? When you’re done, open your eyes and… you’ve guessed, keep reading :)

Today’s topic is mindfulness. What you’ve just done is being mindful for 10 seconds. Well done, huh, because many people don’t even manage to do that. They just run from one thing to another in their minds, as if life was some kind of a marathon. However, allowing even ten seconds of mindfulness a day can add a lot of quality to your already busy life. Here are the main benefits of mindfulness:

1. You become more yourself. You realise what is really important to you etc., and you gain clarity in topics that have been nurturing you.

2. You are more peaceful. Stresses of your job, heartbreak issues or just plain irritation at anything slowly dissolves and you smile to yourself.

3. You exercise your brain! It has been scientifically proven that regular meditation affects your prefrontal cortex (just above your eyes) and your brain becomes more intensely wired! Dr David Hamilton says something about it here.

4. Your problem-solving skills improve. Whether at work, in family life, or when returning an unwanted item in a shop, you are more likely to resolve problematic situations in a more relaxed and assertive way, even if they’re not easy.

5. You can get some brilliant ideas when you’re not forcing your brain to think about your problems! A few moments of simply focusing on your breathing (even in an elevator, on a bus stop, wherever you like) can make the difference and open you up to new ideas that are within you. Your unconscious is just waiting to give you straight-to-the-point, intuitive insights, if you only listen to it!

So, here are five tangible benefits of mindfulness, that I’ve heard of and experienced in my life. There is obviously much more than that to be gained from being mindful and this list is totally subjective. You can experience even better things for yourself. I totally recommend it. If you want to improve your life, be more relaxed and at ease with yourself, improve your attention and intuition, you know what to do :)

Enjoy yourself in the process.

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